We are born into separation. We exist physically and psychologically in the human body that requires a constant supply of energy in order to survive, while resisting the increasing entropy, which causes all things to fall apart and decay. In order to exist we need to interact with our surroundings, which obviously includes other people. Organizing ourselves into groups of all kinds, we increased our chances for survival. You can see how people group themselves into families, villages, towns, countries, or friends, clubs, lovers, religions, and so on. We have ganged up, formed alliances for purely selfish reasons. It was not done for the survival of families or communities, but of the individuals who carried the genetic information. It is true that in the course of our evolution, the inter-human connections allowed us to develop mentally and emotionally, because as groups we have become a bigger, collective organism. But still, everyone is separated, isolated from the whole due living a separate body and mind. This is our paradox that we are so interconnected, and yet so isolated, so alone.
To cope with this separation we are reaching out to others wanting to create emotional bonds that give us the semblance of being together. We learned to care for each other, how to feel affection and sympathy towards other people. While survival is everyone’s priority, we have developed higher emotional needs that are crucial for every human being, because without having some kind of emotional fulfillment, our life feels hollow and meaningless. Hence, love has become such a dominant subject in human culture, books, movies, poetry and religions. And it is all good, but do people really feel love for each other? What is the meaning of this love?
We know that love is transient.
People love each other and then stop loving each other, become indifferent or their love can very easily turn into dislike, hostility, or even hate. This is because psychological love is transactional, it is an exchange of emotion, giving and receiving in all kinds of psychological scenarios. Psychological love is a business deal, where we expect something in return. There is no such a thing as human unconditional love on this planet; some people just create the illusion of it. Nobody loves you for who you are, unconditionally. Even the mother’s love is conditional because she identifies with her child as her biological extension. Love is a big topic in our western civilization, including the ideology that we are supposed to love each other. The idea in itself is hopeful, but do people truly know how to love?
Before love, there has to be goodness and kindness. Wanting to be kind and good to each other is a human wish, but life on this planet is very competitive, bringing up a number of adverse emotions that contradict the ideal of love. We often hurt each other and then hold into that hurt and bitterness. When we get hurt, we never forget it, and we never forgive. Why do people have such a hard time forgiving? Instead, they often seek revenge or inflict punishment on others for their pain, or just shut down. Why can’t people forgive? To understand it, we need to go to the basic makeup of our animalistic self. When you get hurt, the memory of it is stored in your body, in your amygdala and limbic system. All we remember is that hurt which can be experienced with different degrees of intensity. Amygdala, which is the social brain and the center of Me, is in a constant state of self-protection from getting hurt, and it remembers everything, and forgets nothing. And this is how people live, and because they are emotionally primitive, they can never fully get over the memory of their hurt, and they can never entirely forgive.
Human beings are in a very wrong relationship with their emotions. They are unable to surrender to the emotions in the body, so they keep processing them over and over again in the mind. Experiencing emotions in the mind is only intensifying their negative charge, causing us great anguish. Before I speak more about love and forgiveness, you need to understand the urgency of creating a deeper relationship with our emotions, which requires surrender to them in the body, merging with them as Me. As long as we are separated from their emotions, we remain governed by our basic self. There is really no solution on the horizon for most human beings, as they are locked in and confined to the reality of emotional conflicts and distress. There is a solution, but demands having certain requisite spiritual capacity, and the desire to become whole. Surrender to the emotional body is the solution, but how many people are capable of it? You need a connection to being or the absolute in order to enter the body, and you need pure intelligence of Me that can enter there. What about you: can you enter your body? Are you one with your body? Can you be fully unified with your emotions in your body? It is very simple, really. Yes, you should be able to do it even in this moment as you are reading this text.
Emotions start in the brain, mostly in the amygdala. Then they are being immediately transferred via the pituitary gland into the body. Pituitary gland secretes hormones that activate the emotional response in the sympathetic nervous system. It is very fast: the moment the amygdala triggers an emotion, the body feels it immediately, or with a certain delay that is difficult to capture. It is actually very interesting that the amygdala is our emotional center and yet it can only register the emotions through the body (or through the mind), not in its own center. Amygdala has evolved in a way that it was unable to consciously feel emotions directly, but only indirectly via the sympathetic nervous system in the body. That was at first the best strategy for our survival. The mind is just too slow to properly respond to hostile situations, and when it eventually responds with delay it has to have the emotional base in the body first. However, all of this changes with the awakening of Me because we can finally experience emotions both in the amygdala and the body as unity; the amygdala becomes emotionally conscious. But that is not so easy to achieve.
Sympathetic nervous system is an ancient survival system in which it is not the mind but the body that must mobilize itself emotionally in order to respond to any threat. But because human beings are so disconnected from the body, they cannot really feel what they feel in the body. They experience emotions mostly in the mind, and whatever they feel in the body they cannot experience directly but only from the mind; for them the mind is the experiencer, not the body. The fact is that unless you surrender to your emotions in the body, you will remain emotionally unconscious and primitive. How can we ever go beyond the emotional conflicts with others, if we remain emotionally so basic? Spiritually speaking, as long as Me remains separated from its emotions, we will be stuck in the animalistic state of development. Unlike animals, we have a highly developed mind, which is an advantage, but sadly this dominating mind separates us from our emotions even more.
What happened to human beings is that they developed a ‘creature’ that is half-mental and half-emotional – the ‘emotional mind’. The mind took over our emotional existence, and it has become a veritable disaster. You should never process your emotions in the mind, because not only is it not the right place to experience emotions, but the emotional mind cannot think clearly, it is irrational. Only if you surrender to your emotions in the body, your mind for the first time can think rationally. Thoughts are thoughts, not emotions. They serve different purposes. The reason Me created the mind was to think clearly in order to counteract the irrational tendencies of the amygdala and become rational. Someone referred quite appropriately to the emotional mind in distress, or the mind lost in emotions, as the ‘amygdala hijack’.
Where is Me located?
Everything that we are is Me, but still its main center is in the amygdala. I wonder if you see the irony that Self is located in the place of the irrational? What this means is that our me itself is the irrational in us that is in its ancient struggle for becoming rational. What is the point of all the healing systems in the world if human beings are inherently irrational? What kind of healing can happen for them? What is the real healing? It is to become rational. The regular interpretation of being rational is to establish the superiority of mind over emotions. But this is not rational because it excludes emotions which are an integral part of us. What rational means is to become ‘emotionally rational’, where emotions become rational. Here thoughts are no longer clouded by emotions, and emotions are no longer in conflict with thoughts. Emotions are not mixed with the mind, but the mind operates from the conscious emotional base in our body. An emotion is rational when consciousness and intelligence enters it, and such emotion becomes conscious. This happens by Me becoming conscious both as an emotional center in the amygdala, and in the whole body. In fact, it is the only true healing. Healing is to dissolve our emotional fragmentation by embodying our emotions, and becoming one with them.
Amygdala helplessly tries to solve emotional conflicts in the mind because it lacks direct access to the body. However, the awakening of Me in the amygdala allows us to enter the body through emanating intelligence, and its surrender to the body and emotions. Here, we become one with our emotions accessing for the first time our emotional empowerment. When you are one with your emotions, and you become your emotions, it does not matter which emotions you experience, because even the most disturbing emotion becomes instantaneously unified with the peace of the parasympathetic nervous system, and with the absolute, and with Me. All emotions come to the place of quiet, allowing us to enter a state of goodness. Human beings are afraid, terrified of their emotions. It is the fear of fear. When they feel fear, they are horrified by that fear, paralyzed by it, petrified; like an animal freezing in danger. But you see, when you surrender to that fear you are no longer afraid of it because your fear is experienced from the place of unconditional peace. You need to love all your emotions and merge with them; they need you. In the situation of fear, Me gently enters your solar plexus and embraces that fear as itself, and by unifying with it dissolves it in itself. What is really fear but peace unaware of itself? Here you can welcome the most disturbing emotions, saying ‘come to me, I will give you peace’.
It is understandable that we subconsciously yearn to go beyond our separation by giving or receiving love from others. However, that love is only psychological and it cannot be relied upon because its nature is transient and can be taken away. Psychological love no doubt is an essential part of our existence, but is it really love? Maybe it should be called something else? This could be challenging because the psychological love has many expressions and frequencies, such as for example: ‘liking’, ‘fondness’, ‘friendship’, ‘care’, ‘affection’, ‘emotional bonding’, ‘intimacy’, ‘altruism’ and ‘empathy’; or in the case of sexual, romantic love – ‘attraction’, ‘emotional attachment’, ‘emotional immersion’, ‘passion’, and ‘infatuation’. Sadly, none of those emotions are actual love.
People get often thrilled by the idea of selfless love or altruism, but altruism is only a narcissistic form of pretentious selfishness and self-importance, nothing more. Altruism not only never helped anyone, but further eroded our connection with self. You might be familiar with the writings of Ayn Rand who saw altruism as a flawed ethical system leading to collectivism in which the value of individuality is lost, and advocated the virtue of rational self-interest. Love is not achieved by an ideological sacrifice of an individual for the others. This would be no love, but an emotional suicide. Such self-sacrifice is also selfish, but it is an irrational selfishness, which hurts everyone including myself. Mind you, many ideas that we have about love in our western culture come from Judeo-Chrisitan slave morality that elevates timidity, submission, obedience, servitude and self-sacrifice to the status of godly virtues, while selling its soul for the other-wordly redemption. However, instead of sacrificing self for the collective good or god, we need to turn around to find its ultimate affirmation.
According to Friedrich Nietzsche there are three stages of metamorphosis in life, camel, lion and child. Camel, the beast of burden, is the submission to the values dictated by society, the slave stage. Lion is the stage of rebellion, where we roar ‘no’ to all that enslaves us in conformity. And the child is the innocence, affirmation of life, the lightness of being – freedom from both the burden of the past and the rebellion against it. From our perspective here, the child would be simply Me.
Psychological love is love for the masses. Similar to religion being the spirituality for the masses. Real love is much bigger – it is not born in Me, it is Me. It is true that growing in psychological love is crucial for our emotional development. But seen from a higher perspective, our emotional evolution is not an end in itself, but the preparation for the realization of love. We learn emotions through interaction with others, and that in turn deepens our own emotional experience of self. However, at the peak of our emotional evolution, we come to realize the highest emotion, which is no longer an emotion – feeling love, feeling Me. You need to forget everything and anything that we know about love before you can know love. We are so emotionally and ideologically conditioned that our views of love are completely skewed. We really live in the virtual reality of ‘love’, a type of fiction, unable to meet love, blind to truth.
Let me ask you a question, if you feel love for someone, what does it really mean?
If that person rejects you, or hurts you, will your love endure? And whom do you really love? I mean, you feel an emotion of love towards someone, but who is that person? Are you really capable of feeling the other person? On some level, the other person is your projection, like an imaginary friend. You are imagining the other person and you are imagining your love for that person. Like seeing a love scene in the movie and crying. In that dream that you are living, all is imagination – it is but a story you are telling to yourself.
But does it have to be like this? Can we bring reality to this dream, and to the other people, and to our love for them? There is only one way, and it is to transcend our separation. But you see, first you must transcend your separation from yourself, because as long as you are apart from yourself, not only people around you are imaginary, but you yourself are but a figment of your own imagination.
Every person has a backstory that defines them formed through the most important events in their life. This has to end. The past cannot define you, but only the present can. Liberation from the past is a crucial element of your transformation. It is the divine forgetting of the past. Finally dropping that heavy burden that was weighing on your shoulders all your life; stopping being the camel, the beast of burden. And what remains is relief, lightness of the present, and Me. Only then can you at last say, ‘this is Now’.
Speaking of love, why is there no real love in this world? It is because of the absence of self-love. Nobody loves themselves. In fact, the opposite is true, people dislike themselves, feel bad about themselves, harbor guilt, lack of worthiness, shame, regret, and self-criticism. Before you can love others, you need to love yourself. But what does it actually mean? The concept of self-love is commonly perceived psychologically. Similar to how you psychologically love another person, you try to love yourself, relating to yourself as an object of your own love. When people try to exercise self-love, they talk to their mind, attempting to improve their self-image so they can feel good about themselves. It does not work because it is nothing but a psychological illusion, another lie we are telling ourselves.
Human beings do not know who they are, and hence they don’t know whom they are supposed to love as their own self. This is where human evolution has to shift into spiritual evolution. Human evolution alone is limited to psychological reality. It is not really evolving, other than making the mind stronger and stronger. What is spiritual evolution then? It is above all about realizing who we really are as our pure non-psychological self. Self-love is really simple. You only need to feel love in your heart and become that love. That pure feeling of love is how Me knows itself. That love which you keep seeking outside of yourself, and beg to receive from others, that love you need to feel in your heart. Do you really believe that someone loves you? If they don’t know who you are, how on earth can they love you? They don’t know whom they love, they don’t know you. On top of that, if they lack self-love, how can they love anyone? Can you see how far-reaching is this human illusion of love? To know it is sobering. Yes, it is challenging to realize that nobody loves anybody on this planet, but even though it can be painful, at least we know the truth. It is the hard truth, but liberating truth nonetheless. When you pass through the gate of your loneliness into cosmic aloneness, then you will understand. As we get freed from the past idea of love, the space opens in us to discover the real love.
There is no love on this planet, but rather what people call love is ‘seeking love’. Love is not a human reality but rather it is a promise, it is a longing. Everybody is in search of love, yearning for it. Love is seeking itself, but in all the wrong places; love is seeking itself outside of itself. And it is time that love finds itself, don’t you think? For that to happen you need to totally change your relationship with yourself. You need to wake up. If you cannot feel love in your own heart, this means you don’t feel yourself; you are separated from yourself. This separation must end. Your separation from Me has to end. The two pillars through which you reach unification with yourself are realizing Me in amygdala as consciousness, and realizing the same Me in your heart as love. This has to be done, if you have any aspiration to realize the truth, to go beyond suffering, and to love this world. Before you can love this world, you must love yourself, and know yourself as love.
The next important question is, seen from this higher perspective of Me, what does it mean to love others? Don’t try to love others, don’t force yourself to love others, and don’t feel guilty for not loving others. Better not to feel anything than to be an emotional hypocrite. To love others is quite simple really. It is to experience them as Me; Me is the only subject and object of Love in existence. They are outside of you on a physical and psychological level, but they are not outside of you as Me. Have you ever tried to really see who the other person is? Looking into their eyes and feeling who they are? Maybe you did, but what you felt as them was their psychological self. Psychological self is not a self at all, but a bunch of psychological stuff held together as memory in the human construct, while the innate me remains hidden, buried by the mind. But if you are able to look even deeper into the other person, you might be able to feel the essence of who they are, that Me. People are unconscious of their me, but they still have it. And you can feel it in them even if they don’t feel it.
Initially, you might feel their me, but still perceive it as outside of yourself. But if you are able to feel their me from your me, from fully embodying your me, you will come to know that it is the same Me. When you realize your Me as love, you will experience the me of another person also as love. This is love, the only love there is.
Now coming back to the subject of how we get hurt and live in the memory of the pain, constantly projecting it onto the other person, perceiving the other person from their past, and unable to let go, to forgive, to see beyond all the masks and illusions. It is natural that sometimes you get hurt, and then develop the self-protective mechanisms in yourself. But you must let go of it. You need to Forget before you can forgive. But what does it mean to forget? It is not to erase it from your memory, but rather to forget emotionally. Yes, it is to forget emotionally, not mentally. In other words, you need to dissolve the negative emotional charge that you associate with a painful experience or getting hurt by others. And this is done by dissolving that hurt in your body through total surrender to it. In this way, you will un-remember it emotionally. It might not be immediate, but each time that you remember the hurt, you must surrender to it and dissolve it. Not forgiving is self-destructive. Holding onto your pain, or anger, or resentment, you are hurting yourself; you become your own oppressor. This must end.
When you feel like you have deeply hurt, you have gone through trauma, you feel great sorrow, it may appear impossible to forget, to let go. People often want to forget, but the only way they can do it is by suppressing the memory of their pain and burying it deep in the unconscious. But the pain is still there, because the suppression of memory happens only to the mind, while the body always remembers. It is the body that has to become free from that memory. There is an unconscious memory in the brain too, but the brain originally experienced the traumatic events not in the head, but through the body. Therefore, the unconscious mind in the brain has to be healed via the body, by merging with these suppressed emotions in the body itself. The typical approach of therapy is first mentally identifying emotional issues and then through the mind attempting to resolve them, trying to reverse the emotional damage through psychological activity in the mind. It is a mistake and this is why therapies fail to manifest the promised results.
Emotional memory is fragmented because of our separation from emotions. We never experience the negative emotions fully because either we fight against them, try to control them with the mind, or push them away. This is why everyone is so emotionally fragmented. We feel emotions outside of us, as happening in the body or mind. And there is a sense of helplessness in how to cope with them. In time, those past emotions accumulate and gather together as clusters of emotional stress, unwellness and malaise. We seek healing because we are emotionally sick. The emotions themselves are innocent. They have been trying to communicate with the mind forever but to no avail. The mind does not listen, does not understand and is itself becoming emotionally confused, the mind also becomes sick exacerbating even further the stress in the body; whatever happens in the mind as well goes immediately to the body.
There is only one way here out of this total mess – surrender to the emotions in the body. Only then you can go beyond your fragmentation because you become one with your emotional body, and whatever emotions arise, you experience them fully, totally. And they no longer work against you. If you have trauma in the body, feel it wholly in your body and surrender to it, merge with it, and you will experience an immediate change, shift in your experience. Even if your surrender is only partial, still you will feel at least that partial change, and then you know that you are in the right direction. In this surrender you will encounter resistance to merge with your emotions because you were always hating them, but then you need to surrender to this resistance as well. So a certain process is involved, but if one is really willing to take this leap of faith and surrender to emotions with a clear intention not to resist them, the progress will be unquestionably very rapid.
But a word of caution – do not listen to the mind rationalizing or justifying your pain and putting you in a position of a victim. It is rather common that human beings are attached to their pain, they love to feel victimes, they love to feel sorry for themselves. And of course, they love to blame everybody else for their misery. In a distorted way, it allows them to feel meaning in their otherwise devoid of meaning existence; to have this intensity of suffering allows them to feel that they are still alive. This masochistic attachment to emotional pain has to be renounced, for how can a person heal if he does not honestly want to heal?
There is conditional and unconditional forgiveness. In unconditional forgiveness, you forgive because you forget. On the other hand, an example of conditional forgiveness is when someone says that they are deeply sorry, and you are able to release your hurt by absolving them from the blame. Some cannot forgive even if the other person asks for forgiveness. They live in a state of unforgiveness and through their anger they poison themselves emotionally. They prefer to remain victims.
An even bigger issue is that people do not know how to forgive themselves; they live in self-unforgiveness. Remember, forgiveness is not just for others, but above all it is for you. People live in constant guilt because of their flaws, in shame, blaming themselves for not being able to fulfil theirs or others’ expectations. Human beings are amazing in their ability to torture themselves. Without forgiving, one becomes the prisoner of one’s hurt, unable to move on because one is stuck in the past. To forgive is to forget. Those who cannot forget and forgive are bound to live in the past.
To forgive yourself is even more difficult than forgiving others. How can you forgive yourself? The usual approach is psychological, trying to replace negative thoughts about yourself with positive thoughts. We know that these tricks do not work, because people’s guilt is much deeper than their mind, and because it is so irrational it cannot be dissolved through thoughts. Forgiving yourself is an amazing opportunity for emotional transformation. And how is it done? Again, very simple. It is too simple for people to believe that it is true, but it is true. You must surrender to all the emotions associated with guilt in your body until they dissolve. You must forgive yourself by forgetting yourself in Me, in love. You are not that person you think you are, you are Me. Me is forgiveness.
Coming back to forgiving others, part of it is to dissolve the hurt in your body, but another crucial part is to see in the most direct way the other person, and to love the other person. And this is achieved by feeling, knowing and becoming Me in that person. Honestly, you can never forgive another person, who is outside of you – you can only forgive Me.
A typical way people resist the idea of forgiveness is that they see their anger justified. No surprise here as in this world we often experience injustice, and evil. The negative tendencies of humans can be extreme and despicable. Most often we can’t forgive because we are just too hurt, and hold into that pain inside us, unable to release it. At times, it is not even the other person’s fault, but we get hurt anyways and hold onto that pain, frustration, anger and blame. But what good does it do? We are internalizing that blame and hurting even more, living in the hell of our hurt and resentment. So what can we do? We can blame this world and people, but then we forget that this is the nature of this world, where selfishness, insensitivity, extreme ignorance, or even cruelty is common. Everyone struggles to survive here, physically and emotionally. Everyone is a victim, everyone is a perpetrator, and everyone is in pain.
Everybody is Me.
Whether they are good people or bad people, they are Me. If some hurt others, it is because they are lost, confused and hurting, and this causes them to generate great negativity or even become psychologically twisted and cruel. But the one who is lost is also Me. The one who acts without love and compassion is also Me. Forgiving others is not about trying to see the good in people, but about seeing them as Me, seeing who they really are behind their masks.
It does not mean that you need to be psychologically loving everyone, or even be open to everyone. Psychologically you need a discernment about people, and may naturally dislike the company of some who are negative, noisy, annoying, emotionally disturbing, selfish, egocentric, or arrogant. For instance, if someone was unjust to you, deceived you or lied to you, you may not trust their intentions and be apprehensive. Some people are mentally and emotionally a complete mess, and their intentions are not pure, or they have mental problems. You know all of this, but what happens then is that you project on them your own negativity, often born from your hurt or disappointment. You define them, you make a verdict about them, the final ruling that they are not good. In this way, you fix them as a negative image in your mind. And now that fixed image of another person becomes cemented in your mind as a memory that you keep remembering. In fact, the other person becomes that fixed memory. Rather than doing this, you should try to understand that this is not who they are, but the tendencies by which they live. They have tendencies to behave a certain way, to think a certain way, maybe to behave in a pretentious way, to judge you, to hurt you, to intimidate you, to be dishonest with you, and so on. However, even if you dislike the way they are, you must see beyond their psychology directly knowing that they are you, that they are Me. And this is forgiveness. The moment you cast your judgment, and dwell in negativity towards another person, this is where you have forgotten that they are Me. The main reason why people cannot forgive is because they just don’t know that the other person is Me. They may know that others are like-me, similar like me, sharing the same human consciousness, but they don’t know that others are Me.
Psychologically, in relation to the basic human interactions, you also need to give people the chance to change. Why would you give them this chance? It is because they are Me. It is true that statistically speaking human beings do not change in the positive direction and do not evolve; if anything they are getting worse with time, which is the psychological and spiritual form of increasing entropy and degeneration. But still you must give them this chance to change, and be open to this possibility from the place of natural compassion and trust in Me. If you fix in your mind the negative image of a person, you are no longer open, and you lose your compassion. This is not love. True forgiveness allows you to be always open to the good in people, embracing their endless struggles, while forgetting emotionally your own hurt or negative memories of them. I say forgiveness, but even higher is ‘beyond forgiveness’, where you forget forgiveness; meaning the issue of forgiveness does not even arise in you.
We need to look at people and all that complex, confusing and conflicting interactions from a higher place. What is the real problem with this world? What is the real ‘evil’? It is the absence of true love and compassion. We do not see each other, do not know each other. How could we if we don’t know who we are in our very own self? All our existence is based on living in the mind, in their psychological reality without any connection to self. We think all the time, and cannot stop that insane mind even for a moment, we think and think and think endlessly because we have no consciousness.
Everybody is completely unconscious and lost. At the end, what remains and what you can give is forgiveness. You need to forgive everyone, yourself, and this world. It is not a religious type of forgiveness, it is not to ‘turn the other cheek’ scenario where you humbly let yourself become a righteous victim. Here you do not turn your other cheek, but stand up for yourself in the face of injustice, but from the place of compassion. It is forgiveness that is based not on any mind-ideology but on the knowledge of this reality, which is the knowledge of Me. At that grand center of all this disarray, ignorance and insensitivity, there is love, because Me is the Center of All.
The reason why this truth for most people is impossible to grasp is because they are completely identified with their psychological existence, confined to their chaotic mind, living in illusion, hiding behind their masks and imprisoned in this matrix. But for those who can see deeper and have a higher perspective, forgiveness is the only way. Forgiveness is both compassion and freedom. To be free you need to rise above your psychological existence and access the real you. Then you naturally forgive without trying to forgive, forgiving by knowing that everyone is you. You need to forgive others as much as you need to forgive yourself in order to become free. And remember that to forgive is to forget. This is where you come to the place of love. Only love can save this world. But this love can come here only through the realization of Me, through knowing Me in oneself and in others. This is where we get to know in a most intimate manner the sameness of all things.
Compassion and kindness are also qualities of love, but the kind of love that is experienced with the inclusion of the relative separation between you and me. We could call it separation in sameness. There is only Me, but it experiences itself through countless forms, through all the people. But here too, in order to express true kindness and compassion towards another person, you need to experience that person as Me. In this sense, you feel kindness and compassion to Me that is experienced in another incarnation, in another body. True compassion gives rise to unconditional forgiveness, because compassion is the love of me to me that frees us from any blame and hurt. Compassion is to live in the present and to welcome anyone into this present.
Human beings cannot forget and cannot forgive because they lack compassion and live in the past. They live in memories; they define their present through memories. All that has happened, has happened. This is our story written by the ghost of the past. All was necessary to come to the present, but unless we let go of all those memories, from the addiction of living the past, we can never move on. Your memories are your prison, you are the prisoner of your past. Whatever your life was, no matter how hard, it brought you to this moment. This moment is the beginning of your life, the most precious moment, the divine moment from the place of which you can find gratitude for your life. Me knows no past. Why? Because it has no time for the past. It exists only in the glorious eternal Now. This now is not a frozen present moment, but constant stepping from the present into the emerging future.
Why is it that most human beings never change?
Even if they are on the spiritual path or the healing path they actually never change? It is because they are nothing but their past and the collections of their memories. They are the past that keeps failing to cross the threshold into the present. And why is that? Because they just refuse to Forget. They worship their past, because they feel so hollow in the present. So they’d rather forget the present or distract themselves from the unbearable simplicity of the present moment. It is true that your past shaped you, but now is the time that you begin shaping yourself, to create yourself; and it starts with entering the present. But first forget your past; just let it go where it belongs, into nothing. Your true self, your godly identity of Me does not remember the past, because it has no need for it, living only from the hearnow to the hereafter.
Human beings need to awaken to their true nature, which is Goodness. Can you feel that goodness in yourself? You are Good and you are Love. From Goodness comes kindness, from kindness comes compassion and from compassion comes love. Psychological love can be beautiful, but also its charm is deceptive, because it does not arise from the abundance or love but from lack of love. It is that lack of love that needs to be healed through becoming Me. The emotional or psychological love is not meant to be discarded as it is an essential and beautiful part of human experience, but it must be experienced from love, from Me. Then even the emotional love, the psychological love becomes conscious, becomes Me.